Last month at the Messy Bun Newsletter we talked about the why behind nourishing your soul with the Best, and today we are discussing HOW. I gathered advice from multiple women in vastly different seasons of life and asked them what it looks like for them.
Are there seasons where meeting with God looks different? Absolutely. But when Christ died, He tore the veil of the temple in two. This means the women are no longer sitting in the outer gates, hoping for a wisp from the Holy Spirit. The priests are no longer our intercessor, because Jesus Himself intercedes for us through the Holy Spirit – anywhere, at any time. No lambs or blood or special atmosphere needed, but our whole hearts raised in surrender. We have access to the Father! Our heart set on these truths will multiply our daily, mundane yet holy efforts to be in His Presence.
A word from my mom, Vicki Clemons, on spending time with God through the child-raising years and now as she and my Dad are empty-nesters:
Time with God? My daughter asks. Mom, how do you make time with God? And then I have to be honest. My honesty has to come because who knows my life and habits more than my husband and daughter. My time with God isn’t a sit down/30 minutes a day quiet time. My family knows that I am the one who can’t sit still. The one who is always looking for the next big project. The projects that aren’t complete in 20 minutes, but take weeks sometimes months to complete. So, here is the honest truth. My time with God comes in spurts. We come together during car trips, during moments of painting a house while standing on scaffolding, during extreme heat while pushing a lawn mower, while cleaning my home, and occasionally, when I stop to “be” with Him. A long time ago, when I was a baby in Christ, I went through my first women’s study as a believer. This study was with a group of young moms. Some of us were new believers, and some of us were more adults in the faith. However, we all were busy and needed each other during the season of life we were in. It was during this study, that I came to the habit of praying as I went through my day. My day, as I mentioned, doesn’t always begin with an open Bible and a quiet time, but it does always start with being thankful to my Lord and Savior for the day and for my life. I was a stay-at-home mother then and I always began my day cleaning and making everything tidy. The study taught us young mothers to talk to the Lord as we did our household chores, so that is the habit I formed. I pray over my marriage as I make our bed each morning. In the past, I would spend time in each child’s room (making the beds, picking up toys, retrieving dirty sports clothes). It was during those times, that my children were covered in prayer. Oh, the prayers sitting on the edge of my young boys’ beds. And yes, even prayers sent up as I rearranged the stuffed animals and little blanket in Emilee’s crib. As our season of life changed, so did our quiet time habits. We began homeschooling Emilee. Our devotion time became a part of the school day. We also, started doing in depth Beth Moore Bible studies as Emilee grew to the ripe old age of 10. It was then that we started separating into our individual bedrooms for more structured quiet times with our Heavenly Father. Now that my house is empty and my children grown, I find myself doing all of these habits at different times. I still talk with Jesus as I clean or go about my projects/chores. Sometimes, I close the door and dig in deep into the Word. However, in this season of quiet within my house, the time I love most with God is when I shut out all distractions, walk through my house, and talk out loud to my God. I may hold up a photo of the child and/or grandchild whom I am praying over. I may sit on the edge of my marriage bed and pray that the Lord will protect our union. I may hold onto the door frames and ask that the Lord keep Satan away from our household. But, rarely, do I sit and fold my hands in quiet. I need to TELL Him of the gratefulness within my heart. I need to TALK to my God. And oh, how He has spoken loudly to me during these times. Praise Him!
Michelle Gillard, raising two energetic kiddos under 5:
I once heard a pastor speak on the topic of if God was the first love of your life. He posed the question, “what is the first thing you do in the morning? That says a lot about what you love most” and that struck me to the core. The first thing I did in my early 20’s was check my email, check social media, check my calendar, etc. Now, I’ve made it a habit to pray first thing. I do not open my phone until I’ve showered and gotten ready with prayer time, and audio bible.
Since quarantine, I decided that if I ever had time to myself while the kids napped, I would first spend time with God. Some days that looks like prayer, some days it is reading or journaling, and other days it’s listening to an online sermon while I exercise or clean the house. I’ve found that if I give God those first minutes, I have the refreshment I need to make it through the rest of my day.
- In reading [Get Out Of Your Head by Jennie Allen], I’ve really been trying to “take every thought captive” as Jennie suggests. I have to remind myself constantly that there is a battle for my mind, and I can choose to focus on God and his truths and promises, or I can let the doubts and fears from this world creep in.
Leah Vance, recent college grad and social worker:
One way I like to commune with God throughout the day is through music. I LOVE music and listening to worship songs can really help my attitude, my approach to the day, and helps turn my mind toward Christ. I also try to go to God in prayer throughout my day – even if it’s just a quick prayer telling God I’m frustrated with something and need help.
Janie Johnson, a solid Instagram follow, wife, and mother:
I’m learning a lot right now about what abiding truly means and how to cut out excess distractions to make room for the BEST portion – God’s Word….
The biggest thing I have to do is CHOOSE to sit and open up my Bible and trust God to provide time to do the rest. It’s hard for me to do this when the house is a mess or when I feel the to do list calling my name, but it truly is a chose (some days I choose well, other days I give in and don’t make the best choice).
Deuteronomy 11:18-19 is super encouraging to me: “So commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these words of mine. Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. Teach them to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up.” We can connect with God as we go! There are amazing resources like apps that will read the Bible our loud to you, truth-filled podcasts, worship songs, and prayer! These all help keep me connected to the Lord throughout the day!
Basically, my quiet time is always evolving and changing, but that’s okay! That’s why the Holy Spirit is such a gift because we can commune with God wherever we go!
Go! Meet with God! And be overwhelmed in the finding, because this He promises: “Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart.” (Jeremiah 29:12-13)
How do you meet with God? What are your favorite tools that point you to Christ?
“There is no more fulfilling way to begin the day because I can testify: Short-change time with God and its your own joy that falls short. Especially when the world is on fire, what it direly needs is more hearts on fire for God’s — because you fight fire with fire. The way to counter all the madness is to encounter all God’s goodness. The way to counter all this heartache, is to encounter the heart of God. The way to counter the fury of a world burning down, is to get down on your knees and light your own heart on fire.” —Ann Voskamp